Can You Hear Me Now?

Telephone conversation with AH today:

AH: I have some news for you.
ME: Oh?
AH: Yes. I found a perfect match!
ME: A car? (we were talking over the weekend about how he needs a new car)
AH: No! For you! Since I’m so good at it. (He was referring to the fact that he set up his friend with my friend in June and they’re still together).
ME: For me?! Oh! A man?!
AH: Yeah! A really nice guy. I drive him all the time, and he’s really nice, always happy and positive and friendly. He’s a Newfie. You know how Newfie’s are, so friendly.
ME: Yeah! I know how Newfie’s are! THEY DRINK A LOT. Heh. Does he drink a lot?
AH: I don’t think so. Do Newfie’s drink a lot?
ME: The ones I know do. So as long as he’s not a big drinker…
AH: I don’t think he is. We have a really good time whenever I drive him, he’s great to talk to. And I thought… hey, I know a really nice girl!!
ME: Reeeaaaalllly! Well… how old is he?
AH: Around our age. Maybe a couple years older. And his disability is, and I don’t know what happened, but he lost his leg from the knee down. You can’t even tell, though.
ME: Oh hell, I don’t care about that.
AH: Yeah I know. Today we were talking about women, and he was saying how much he’d like to meet a really nice girl, but women tend to just brush him off. And I thought of you, but I wanted to check with you first.
ME: Did you tell him about me?
AH: Not a word yet. He wanted to go out, he said “you’re a good looking guy, we should go out sometime… you can attract the women and I’ll get to meet them” (hehe) but I said I’m married and my wife would kill me if she found out I was going out* and stuff. And he said he understood, you know, he’s that kind of guy… he respects that.
ME: Well sure, give him my number.
AH: Okay I will. Now, I just have to see him…
ME: Oh right! You don’t know when you’ll drive him again haha
AH: I know where he lives. I may just go to his door. In the mean time I’ll tell my Access driver friends “if you see John, have him call me!!!” You’ll really like him.
ME: Cool. Perhaps we are figuring out why I met you in the first place now!

So yeah, that’s pretty neat. AH is the last person I ever expected would set me up with someone. Of course, he can give this John guy my number, but it doesn’t mean he’ll call or even that I will like him. But it got me thinking, AH sure does meet a lot of people in his line of work, and he really thinks highly of me, so perhaps he can be my pimp salesperson. Nobody can sell you better than you**, except maybe a guy that has dated you and still thinks you’re great.

*NB: AH is separated from his wife and they live apart, and were when I met him, but he realizes now that he really is not “available” as long as they’re not divorced and she’s not out of the picture… which will probably not happen in the near future because they have small kids and his culture/religion/family operates differently than mine in that regard. And that, in a nut shell, is why nothing more than friendship will ever occur between us again. I have totally accepted that now and really like having him for a friend (especially after today hehe). I will, however, always think he is hot and don’t expect that to change.

**Dr. Phil, Love Smart

Well I guess I’ve had a pretty busy week. I worked and saw friends and volunteered at the casino and saw my chiropractor and went to my Weight Watchers meeting and lost another pound. I met with a new client who gave me tons of work (and I almost worried when I gave up that big client in May! I’m busier than ever). Volunteering at the Casino was fun. I do it every 18 months for the only MS charity I support here (I don’t support the MS Society and their negative, drug focused views), Direct-MS. I’m a cashier, which basically means I get to hang out in the cage with a bunch of people and talk and laugh and occasionally cash in someone’s chips. We also get unlimited bottled water, coffee and pop all day and free lunch in the dining room or cafe. If I hadn’t booked my ride to pick me up so early, I could have had supper too… I’ll have to remember that for next time. Although it wasn’t a hard day for the typical person (pretty slack), it was hard on me just to be up and alert for that long without resting and by the time I got home at 8:00 I was wiped. I needed the next day off to recover! Read the rest of this entry »

You* meet a man at the end of December. He is gorgeous and hot and sexy and sweet and you think, he must be the best looking man in his field of work. The next time you see him, about 6 weeks later, you realize… no, he isn’t just the best looking man in his field, he is the best looking man you have ever laid eyes on ever. The next time you see him, a couple weeks later, you realize you officially have a crush on him. He’s just too hot for words, has a really good vibe about him, is fun to talk to and very kind. There’s a good heart and soul in there.

Six weeks go by and you’re ready to burst. You have been dying to see him because you finally decided you are going to ask him out next time, no matter what, don’t let the chance go by. FINALLY the day comes that you see him. It’s the end of April and your birthday is coming up. Oh my, so is his. Oh, well, how about that, it’s the same day as yours! How interesting. He says I think we need to go for a drink and celebrate that. And you say OKAY!!

So the first date happens, and you have a lot of fun. You learn a few things about him that make you a little uneasy… he is still married, separated only a year… three small kids… probably not someone who is looking to jump into anything, and do you even want to jump into anything with that kind of baggage hanging about? Well, one day at a time, right. He is still cute and sexy and fun and you never know.

The weeks go by. He seems rather up and down. Very attentive one day, then disappears for a week, stuff like that. You confront him… “what’s up, sometimes I think you like me, then I don’t know, you seem to have a very short attention span…” He tells you it has nothing to do with you. He has so much stuff going on in his life and it’s all rather complicated, you don’t even want to know. But it has nothing to do with you, as you are an angel, and he kisses you good night softly and sweetly. Sigh.

So that gets him by for a little while longer. The next few weeks he calls you and you talk on the phone a lot, but notice it is odd that the conversations never end with him saying “so, what are you up to this weekend?” or trying to make plans to get together. Hmmm. Three weeks since you last saw each other you decide to go to a movie. He picks you up, pays, drives you home, kisses you goodnight and when he holds you close a little whimper escapes from his mouth. Ahhhhh, the whimper. You know that one. It’s the “I really like you and I WANT to but I just CAAAAN’T” whimper.

You assess the situation. You like each other, you’re attracted to each other, but face it, the guy has “stuff” going on in his life and he’s not willing to discuss it with you so it must be a pretty big obstacle. His family, for one, controls a lot of his life and will continue to as long as he can’t learn to say “no”. And you don’t just mean his kids, you are talking brothers, sisters, cousins, nephews, aunts, uncles… The youngest of 9 kids in a huge family with a culture very different from yours, especially when it comes to family. A single Canadian girl from a very small family who has lived COMPLETELY ALONE for at least 12 years and spends all of 10 minutes a day maximum in the kitchen** can’t compete and wouldn’t even want to try!

So you decide to end it. He doesn’t have room for you in his life and isn’t making a real effort to create that room. You can’t read his mind and as long as he’s not telling you what’s going on inside of it, you’re just frustrated. So you tell him you think he’s a great guy and wish things could be different, but alas, adios amigos.

Meanwhile, you know deep down it is NOT OVER entirely because there was a reason that man came into your life and it wasn’t just to test you, no matter what you tried to tell yourself. As time passes though, the more you think about it, the more you know there is no real future for the two of you, even if his up-and-down behaviour evened out. He didn’t come into your life to marry you, THAT is for sure. Two worlds colliding does not always work out like an INXS song. There are too many things, and in this case mainly cultural values, that would make it impossible. You know this. But that doesn’t mean you can’t have some fun, does it?? Read the rest of this entry »

I have been receiving some nice emails from readers of my blog lately. Usually they are from people with MS or who have someone in their family with MS. This blog isn’t exactly about MS, but as a person that lives with it, I can’t help but mention it sometimes or how it’s affecting me in my day to day life. Like these days… BLAH is all I have to say!!

This lead me to look again at the most popular search phrases that people are using to stumble upon my blog. I was expecting to see the words “multiple sclerosis” in there somewhere, but they’re actually not! I am, however, still VERY AMUSED by some of these phrases and feel the need to share some with you again: Read the rest of this entry »

Well, well, well… where to begin with the events of the past week. Hee! Fun? Oh, yeah, we had fun. Lots of fun.

It all started when AH picked me up to go get Shawna from the airport last Saturday. I had asked him a few days before if he had a friend that we could double date with this week… every time Shawna is here, we see the same group of people, and wouldn’t it be nice to have a night out with a couple guys and do something different?? (No offence to the “regulars”. You know what I mean!) So, yeah, AH mentioned he was free that night and I suggested he call his friend and we all go out.

So Shawna got to meet AH you guys, the first to meet him, hopefully not the last…? After getting Shawna we came back here and threw in my Polyjesters DVD and much to my very pleasant surprise, AH stayed and watched it with us and laughed his ass off. What a way to get in my good books! When AH left he said he’d be back around 7:00 with his friend.

And, so he was. As Shawna and I approached the van, out popped AH’s friend (Billy! His name is Billy! Ahahahaha), and he was cute! Yay! Score. The four of us went to a pub for a couple drinks and to watch some sort of world championship fighting we didn’t know was on, but could not escape (so you may as well enjoy it, right?) AH and I kicked butt betting on who the winners would be. Heh.

Then we came back here and figured we’d throw in a movie, and chose Dumb and Dumber so we wouldn’t have to really concentrate on it and wouldn’t feel bad talking over it. Now, when AH and I first discussed the kinds of movies we liked, I remember telling him I like comedies, romance, action/adventure kind of stuff (I didn’t get into the fact that the types of comedies I like are pretty goofy and usually involve Will Ferrell, Jim Carrey or Adam Sandler; he could face those details another day). He told me he likes romance and mystery; no mention of comedy. I was thinking, well, I guess I won’t be watching Will Ferrell movies with him, which is a sad thought, because that kind of humour is really a big part of who I am!! Whether that is good or bad! Well, AH knew practically every line from Dumb and Dumber and was laughing out loud and knee slapping the whole movie. Yaaaaaaay!! I’ve found a goofball. We are so going to see Bewitched. (OMG I can’t wait for that!!)

On Sunday Shawna and I spent most of the day being giddy about the night before (Yay for cute boys! Hee!) before joining Michelle for dinner at the Santa Fe Grill. Monday… Shawna had a meeting in the morning and then met up with Billy that night. Tuesday… I took Shawna with me to my chiropractor’s and we had lunch at a restaurant near there that makes, in my opinion, about the best pizza in Calgary. That night, Billy and AH came to take us to the movies… I wanted to take AH to see Hitch (I have seen it before and knew he would love it. Which he did! And he didn’t even pull his hand away from mine during all that “loooove” talk ahahahaha) and those two saw Miss Congeniality 2.

So, are we seeing a trend here? Shawna and Billy, Billy, Billy. It was very cool the way those two hit it off so quickly and saw as much of each other as humanly possible during the week, squeezed in between other things we had planned. He called her a lot and it’s pretty obvious “he is into her“, so I guess time will tell if anything continues on after her return to Winnipeg! Go Shawna, go Shawna, go Shawna! Read the rest of this entry »

I now have access to the statistics for my blog… how many hits/unique readers, how long they stayed, what they’re reading, what/who brought them here, etc. I also know who you are all bwahahaha! Kind of. IP addresses can reveal a lot about a person sometimes if you know how to dig! I have a lot more readers than I thought… just over two months has brought in 1,849 unique visitors, many who even stayed over an hour. So few comments and notify list subscribers though… I wonder if spammers register in the visitors category?? Heh. That would explain a lot. I like to see the searches people did that brought them here… some of my favourites are: Read the rest of this entry »

My birthday weekend has come to an end for another year. (Sort of… there is still family stuff this coming weekend that will most likely involve cake and presents, so who am I kidding!) My friend Christine invited me out for dinner on Saturday night, and she asked me if I wanted to invite anyone else, so I got a few friends together and we met up at Joyce on 4th, a nice Irish Pub & Restaurant. We had a blast!!

Fingerprints on the camera lens caused a couple pictures to blur, but ohhh well, we have our memories:

Clockwise from left: Christine, Lisa, Russ, Michelle, Me and Jason

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Current song I am obsessed with: Business Time. Please right click and “save target as” to download, you won’t regret it. Parental Guidance suggested.

Guess who I saw yesterday?? My Hot Access Calgary driver, after what… six plus weeks since I last saw him? Geez. I was starting to think Access had hit the “blacklist this driver” button instead of the “wonderful review” button after I called in last time to compliment him. Anyway, I had decided that the next time I saw him I would coyly slip him my number and suggest meeting for a coffee sometime, but it turns out I didn’t need to. It came up that our birthdays just happen to be on the same day (he is exactly one year younger than me) and he said “well, I’m not much of a drinker, but I think we need to go drink and celebrate that!” so we’re going out! Woo hoo! I also found out he tried to email me about a month ago or so, but I must have deleted it among all my spam or something… he said the subject was “test” and his “from” name is something silly and not his own, so I very well could have overlooked it. Oops. That won’t be happening again.

Hee! I think he likes me! Read the rest of this entry »