I GET IT!!!
October 24th, 2004 (Current Mood: 
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This one is for the ladies!
I got my book. I’ve read it, and I’m happy to say, I am cured!! I get it now. I really, truly get it now. Men are not complicated… we make it that way. We make it that way by trying to “figure them out” and make excuses for their behaviour. The fact is, if you’re trying to “figure him out”, he’s probably just not that into you. When a guy is into you, he will let you know. He will call. He will ask you out. “He’s really busy”. Bullshit excuse! He’s not that into you. If he was, he would look forward to taking that break from his hectic schedule to call you. Who doesn’t enjoy talking to someone they like?? If he’s not calling you, it’s because you are not on his mind. It’s really not that hard, so why make it so.
All of the excuses we use (”we” meaning “me” and any other woman that can identify, I KNOW I am not alone!) are mentioned in this book. Maybe he’s intimidated by me… maybe he doesn’t want to ruin the friendship… maybe he wants to take it slow… maybe he’s afraid to get hurt again… (my favourite line? “The only thing he’s scared of… and I say this with a lot of love… is how not attracted to you he is”). OUCH!!! Yes, some guys want to take it slow for what ever reason, but he will let you know that immediately, he won’t keep you guessing.
I saw myself and every man I have ever dated or liked or thought liked me in the pages of this book and now I get it. Damn! Took me long enough. It’s so easy!! I’ve wasted a lot of time. All the energy I spent trying to figure out guys that just weren’t that into me. I can’t get it back now, but it sure feels good to know what I want and deserve and that if I’m not getting that, he’s just not that into me, and move on. Woo hoo!
Here is a glossary all single women need to carry in their wallets:
| What It Sometimes Means | |||
| Friend | I would never do anything to intentionally hurt you. | I’m just not that into you. | |
| Busy | I was just inaugurated president of the United States today. | I’m just not that into you. | |
| Bad Boy | A guy you should stay away from. | A guy you should stay away from. | |
| I’m not ready | I can’t find my pants. | I’m just not that into you. | |
| Call me | I just dropped my cell phone in the ocean and I lost your number. | I’m just not that into you. | |
| Not into family | I don’t want to date your mom. | I’m just not that into you. | |
| Fear of intimacy | Fear of being intimate. | I’m just not that into you. |
At the end of each chapter there is “Our Super-Good Really Helpful Workbook” with exercises like this:
Get a bright red crayon. Color in this flag. You’ve just made a big red flag.
Hee!
For me to really get into how good this book is, I would need to type out half of it here. So I think you just need to buy it and read it yourself, unless you are happily married or have found someone you know is into you! This book is a real eye opener and the authors do not hold anything back to spare our feelings. Now I know what it’s supposed to look like, and I get it. I really get it!
The book? As mentioned in previous posts, “He’s Just Not That Into You: The No Excuses Truth To Understanding Guys“. Brilliant!!
We are fabulous. Don’t let anybody ever make you second guess that!! Reset your standards and go have some fun. “Don’t waste the pretty”.
LMAO I just love that flag…and it is empty to color in? Too funny!! Don’t ya just wish that EVERY person who has flags, just WORE the darn things on their tshirts??? I am GLAD that you are cured!!!! Perhaps a Bellini will be of importance to celebrate eh
this makes me realize that I so SHOULD pick this book up, as I’m sure I can learn ALOT from it.
pfft– I knew all that already– I am a very experienced 15 year old hahaha.
Just kidding. Anywhoo. I’m glad you are cured Donna, though I will miss our long, “figure him out” conversations.
Sheesh, you could have just asked
Guys are easy to figure out - we’re idiots, end of story, end of rules. We always do the last thing you expect, but we do it at exactly the time you expect. In other words, usually the worst time possible. Once you’ve got that down, we fall right into line 